You first

​“You should do this.”

“You must have this.”

“I think you should do that.”

Don’t be a dictator. You can’t tell other people what to do. They won’t listen and they shouldn’t listen. How do you know what’s best for them? What gives you the right to speak into their life? Nothing. Unless you’re perfect. Unless you’ve mastered your life and solved your own problems, what makes you think you have a solution for them?

From that train of thought we can extract the following maxim:

Solve your own problems before you try to fix other people’s.

But aren’t we all a never-ending work in progress? Yes, indeed. So maybe, you should keep that in mind when you try to help others. 

We’re all unfinished. We’ve all got problems. Even if we don’t exhibit them to the wider world. We’re all making it up as we go along.