Winning or losing is irrelevant

​People far wiser, far more experienced and far more eloquent have said it before. I’m going to repeat it because you need to hear it:

Your problems may not be your fault, but they are your responsibility. Whatever situation you currently find yourself in, it’s on you to do something with it.

When you realise this, there are two paths you can take.

The first is that you can allow it to scare you. You have responsibility and you have control. Which is scary because now, the question becomes, “what the hell am I supposed to do with it? Where do I go now?”

Most people, before those and similar questions have even finished flashing through their minds, panic. “Take it back! I don’t want this burden! I want someone else to decide!” But you can’t un-see this. So they’re forced to lie to themselves for the rest of their lives.

Or you can see the responsibility and control as empowering. You can say to yourself, “look at all the possibilities this open up. Look at what I can do. Look at what I can become. I can choose. I can decide. I’m not going to let anyone take this freedom from me ever again.”

I get it, there’s few truths more scary than “your situation is your responsibility.” But you know what’s more scary? Living your entire life as a victim of circumstance, as someone who drowns themselves in pity and sorrow for their own sorry condition, as someone who voluntary relinquishes the control they have and the person they could be in exchange for a sad, empty existence.

Your situation is your responsibility. Take ownership of it. Play the hand you’ve been dealt. But whether you win or lose is irrelevant if you play to the best of your ability.