Our past defines us only until the present. From that point on we can choose to make it irrelevant. We can choose a future that is different from the one our past predicts. We can become who we decide to be, rather than who our past makes us.
“How?” you ask. Simple. Answer three questions. The two above, and this one: “Do you like who you’re becoming?” If the answer is no, then the next action is obvious. Don’t continue doing the same things, in the same way. If you’re not on the right path, start walking a different one